instead of spending so much time assuring other people that “asexuals can have sex to please their partner” why don’t we spend time assuring asexuals that they are under no obligation to have sex with their partners to please them, and that if their partner cant respect their sexuality, they don’t deserve them.
So the question I ask in all honesty is: What happens when an asexual falls in love with an allosexual? Shouldn’t they both respect each other’s sexualities and make efforts to accomodate each other?
Relationships between asexual and allosexual people can work, but there definitely needs to be communication between those involved as to what is and isn’t acceptable. It’s not so much that there needs to be an equal compromise I think, but rather a compromise that works for that particular relationship. Like, if the asexual is uncomfortable with sex, but the allosexual wants sex in the relationship, it’s not fair to ask the asexual to grit their teeth and bear with it. Coercing someone into sex is never good. On the other hand though, as long as everyone involved is comfortable it’s all good.
"Oh rascal children of Gaza. You who constantly disturbed me with your screams under my window. You who filled every morning with rush and chaos. You who broke my vase and stole the lonely flower on my balcony. Come back, and scream as you want and break all the vases. Steal all the flowers. Come back.. Just come back.."
Khaled Juma, a Palestinian poet from Gaza. (via nowinexile
More than 600 Palestinians are no longer with us in the space of 14 days, 25% of whom were children. May God bless the little darlings and may He grant their parents sabr. (via standwithpalestine
|me:||i’m home alone i can do anything i want
|me:||no one will ever know
|me:||*plays Japanese songs full volume*
My dad was telling me about these girls at his old college who invented a nail polish that paints on clear, and if you stir your drink with your finger with the nail polish on, it will react with the “Date Rape” drug and turn red.
Dude. It’s genius.
I saw this before and didn’t reblog it because it didn’t have anything to say how but now that there is a link saying how I wil reblog it.
What’s R(ace) Got To Do With It?: White Privilege & (A)sexuality →
In this series of pieces I hope to develop a new grammar to talk about asexuality outside of the ways in which it has been co-opted by neoliberal identity politics. I am interested in reclaiming and developing an analysis of (a)sexuality in our collective efforts toward racial…
Really long but worth the read. Listen up, white asexuals.
White Aces, Listen to Aces of Colour
#this is important
If we want our community to be inclusive, you need to listen to our points of view.
There is no homogenous experiences in the ace community. What aces of colour deal with is not the same as what white aces deal with.
Asexuality does not exist in a vacuum, and must be examined and talked about in a critical fashion.
You must understand that there are groups of people who have had asexuality (different than our understanding of it but still the same word) forced on them or have been hypersexualized beyond compare and cannot access asexual spaces in the same way due to racism.
Asexuality (and things like it) have an old history in certain groups, and it is vital to understand that.
You can’t approach the experiences of aces of colour from a white perspective; you can’t. Because you won’t understand.
Our community is multicultural, and it is important that our discourse reflects it.
I’m reminded of what I was talking about at the International Asexuality Conference at the Asexuality and Ethnicity panel I was asked to be apart of: “You cannot parse my asexuality from my race. They are not separate. You cannot fully understand my experiences if you break them apart.”
We are apart of this community
If asexuality discourse does not actively include aces of colour or have our voices dominate in discussions of our experiences with racism and the impact it has had on our asexuality, then it will be inaccurate.
if you were dfab, how can you be intersex? just wondering : )
Allow me to explain, when I was born the doctor looked at my genitals and went “I see this baby has a vagina therefore she must be a girl!!”
However I have something called Turner Syndrome which means that I am missing one of my X chromosomes. Instead of having XX chromsomes I only have X. Not having XX chromosomes means I deviate from what is considered the norm for the “female sex” so that means I can be considered intersex! Also interestingly enough having a missing chromosome means that my ovaries don’t work so I can’t have kids, I had to take hormones to go through puberty, I can’t naturally get my period and a whole bunch of other things that would be considered a part of being “female”.
It is good to remember that being intersex does not necessarily mean having intersex genitalia. I can be assigned female at birth and have a vagina and be intersex because of my chromosomes.
Just a warning anon I am very open about talking about my body and stuff but not every intersex person is as open to questions like this one since it means having to discuss their genitals and other sometimes unpleasant things.